<div><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-style: inherit; font-family: inherit; font-size: 1rem; letter-spacing: inherit; line-height: 1.75; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">在越南北部的偏远地区，年轻女孩正在大规模"消失"。这些女孩消失时最小的只有13岁，他们是被贩卖的新娘，去向是中国。</strong></p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">儿童权益保护组织"国际计划"（Plan International， 也称"国际培幼会"）称，在过去十年中，这种被迫婚姻缓慢而持续地增长。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">由于在过去长达几十年时间里实行计划生育，加上重男轻女的传统，中国人口男女比例失调的情况日趋严重。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">摄影师文森特•特莫尔（Vincent Tremeau）和国际计划的工作人员科斯蒂•卡梅伦（Kirsty Cameron）一起来到一个失去很多女孩的偏远越南山村，走访了女儿被拐走的家庭。</p><figure style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: inherit; margin: 32px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; clear: both; background-color: #ffffff;"></figure> <img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-1.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">56岁的杜（Do）已被诊断患上了绝症。她现在唯一的愿望就是能在去世前看一眼自己的女儿Mi。 她已经失踪两年了。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">Mi是在一家市场帮忙跑腿时失踪的，杜和家人清楚地记得，她离开摊位的时候，有两个男人尾随着她。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">家人一直追到越南北部的和江（Ha Giang）。但他们到达那里时，Mi就失踪了，没人再见到她。当地人说，她可能已经被带到了中国并且卖作人妻。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">Mi的照片还一直挂在家里的墙上。</p><div><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-2.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /> </div><div><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-3.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-4.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div><span style="color: #ececec; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; background-color: #111111;">Mi的嫂子只敢在丈夫陪同下才敢去市场。</span></div><div> </div><div><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">Mi失踪后，这个遥远山村里又有3名女孩被拐走。这个山村只有50个居民。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">Mi的嫂子被这件事吓坏了。她严禁家里的女性成员独自走出村子，她本人也只有在丈夫陪同下才敢去市场。她每天都担惊受怕，害怕持续的拐卖行为总有一天会降临到自己女儿头上。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">失踪女孩家庭遭遇的是一种"模糊性失落"（ambiguous loss）。美国明尼苏达大学心理学学者保琳•博斯（Pauline Boss）说，<a href="http://www.bbc.com/zhongwen/simp/world/2014/03/140325_magazine_mh370_missing_person" style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px; border-top-style: initial; border-right-style: initial; border-bottom-style: solid; border-left-style: initial; border-top-color: initial; border-right-color: initial; border-bottom-color: #dcdcdc; border-left-color: initial; border-image: initial; color: #222222; font-style: inherit; font-family: inherit; font-size: 1rem; font-weight: bold; letter-spacing: inherit; line-height: 1.75; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; text-decoration-line: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(17, 103, 168, 0.3);"> "模糊性失落"</a>是一种最为痛苦的心理失落，其原因是难以看到希望。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">遭遇这种心理创伤的人会经历一系列情绪波动，比如苦闷、困惑、绝望、极度伤心、彷徨、无助等等。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">这些情绪加上永无终点的期盼，就会对受拐女孩的家属心理造成破坏性、打击性的后果。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">不停寻找失踪女儿的信息，但又无法确定他们的去处，无法知晓他们的命运，这些家庭甚至不能像真正失去女儿那样用哀悼形式来驱散丧子之痛。</p><figure style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: inherit; margin: 32px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #111111; clear: both;"></figure><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-5.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div> </div><div><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-6.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div> </div><div><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-7.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div><span style="color: #ececec; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; background-color: #111111;">定曾在15岁的时候被拐走，但8个月后幸运地逃脱。</span></div><div> </div><div><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">这个群体的生存状态极其艰难。人贩子还经常使用这样的伎俩：花费数月时间和一个女孩建立关系，假装成为她的新朋友甚至男朋友，然后慢慢告诉他们说可以帮助他们在中国找到工作。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">许多女孩相信在中国能挣到更多薪水，生活会更好。出于帮助家庭解决困难的想法，这些女孩会乐于接受这种"帮助"。 但最终他们跨过边境后才发现，自己被骗了。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">18岁的定（Dihn）就有过这样的被骗经历。15岁的时候，她和一位叫Lia的朋友得到了一个搭车回家的机会，这样一来他们可以不再步行很远的路程。但很快这种帮助被证明是一场骗局。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">定被拐到了中国，锁在一间屋子里，拍了照发给买家。定在8个月逃脱，但她的朋友Lia却再也没有回来。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">越南政府数据显示，2017年1月到3月，发生了300起这样的拐带案例。但非政府组织Child Helpline表示，过去三年时间里收到了近8000起和拐卖相关的求助。</p><p style="border: 0px; color: #404040; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, STHeiti, 华文黑体, "Microsoft YaHei", 微软雅黑, SimSun, 宋体, "WenQuanYi Micro Hei", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; line-height: 1.75; margin-top: 18px; margin-right: 165.16px; margin-left: 165.16px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: #ffffff;">儿童权益保护组织"国际计划"进入越南和江省的社区和学校，希望当地民众尤其是女孩充分知晓贩卖人口的危险。与此同时，他们还在和当地机构合作，寻找失踪的女孩，谋求将人贩绳之以法。</p><div> </div><div><img src="/EditBackyard/EditorData/Photo/2018/Feb/2420184-1-8.jpg" width="650" height="432" alt="" /></div><div> </div> </div><div> </div><div> </div> </div>